Today we list 5 perceived flaws or strengths of ours. Or else of someone we admire. Do that now!
Then we flip it. Explore how that strength can also be a flaw or how the flaw can be a strength.
It’s a useful exercise in expanding our perceptions and perspective.
I have trouble with the Day 22 prompt. I can make my list of flaws no problem. But how are these strengths? I can’t see it. I skip ahead to Day 24.
I return to Day 22 another day.
I start with the flaw, but what soon emerges is compassion for myself. Here’s an excerpt:
Lisa, I just want you to know I love you. Sometimes you’ll listen with your ears and heart, with the hairs on your skin prickling, and sometimes you’ll remain so focused on what you planned to say you may need to ask the person to repeat their words because they went right through you….
…and I still love you…
Lisa, when you notice you’re not listening, you now have a choice to continue not listening. Or to try to listen, to open up to the person with curiosity, or if that’s too hard, to open up to yourself with curiosity, “That’s curious that so and so’s mouth is moving and I am not receiving the words. I wonder what that’s about.”
Curiosity and wonder emerged from a mindfulness course offered by my dear friend, Communication Coach Donna Rustigian Mac. Thank you, Donna!
Your Turn to Share
What’s it like to explore a flaw or a strength? Can you flip it?
Share an excerpt or a struggle, an insight or a phrase.
Or share anything provoked by the experience I share. Can you bring compassion to your exploration?