Books don’t write themselves. They need you and me to make the time and space to get them written.
And yet, it’s so easy to say, “Of course I’ll take you shopping tomorrow, Mom.” “The committee can’t find a new fundraising chair? Sure, I’ll take it on for another year.”
Blurry Boundaries are the Enemy of the Author
If this is going to be the year of your book, then no. You cannot take on fundraising chair another year. Instead, find a replacement, train them and get yourself off that committee! You have writing to do. Once your book is out there, doing its work in the world, you can reevaluate whether you have the bandwidth to take on that committee once again.
Or not. Maybe there’s another book in you!
How to Make Time for Your Book and Keep to It
To get your book written, you need to do four things:
- Create space in your schedule by reducing time on specific activities or cutting out some activities.
- Schedule the specific dates and times in your calendar–with notifications–and keep those times sacred. I know. You’ve probably heard me say this a million times.
- Let people know about your book (or vague project is fine, too) being a priority and therefore you’ll be less available for partying, volunteering and unscheduled outings.
- Keep your boundaries. Don’t let them get mushy! And don’t give in to pushy!
How to Keep Your Boundaries to Get Your Book Written
Tempted to let a boundary go? Ask yourself, “How will it affect my book if I say yes to this?” That one question can keep you on track.
On a call today with a client, she mentioned she might not be able to make our group writing sessions because the folks in a meditation group she founded wanted her to join them on zoom while she’s traveling.
So I suggested what I always do in such cases. “Let’s ask your muse what she wants you to do.” Perhaps her inner muse viewed meeting her meditation group via Zoom as essential for her well-being. But perhaps her muse viewed it as one more way she was sacrificing her book for other people’s needs. And maybe procrastinating, too.
So we asked. What was the priority? Get Your Writing Done sessions or meditation group by zoom. Her muse was loud and clear. “Write! Make the Get Your Writing Done program a priority. You already meditate regularly!”
She shared that her personal meditation practice is on track. She’d be joining the group because they want her presence and they asked her to join by zoom, not because it it something she needs. But what the world really needs is her book. We both know what a powerful story she has to write.
Can Get Your Writing Done Help You Complete Your Book
One boundary to consider is a commitment to a group program that you keep sacred and show up to weekly, in the same way that my client recommitted. Here’s a little more about the program from Creativity Coach, Artist, Blogger, Podcaster, Poet and Yoga Nidra Teacher Sharon Burton, who started in the class as a participant and is now one of our facilitators, along with me and Laurie Hunt, Founder of the More-In-Me Movement.
You can read more here about the Get Your Writing Done program.
How Are Your Boundaries?
How about you? Is it easy for you to blur boundaries and say “yes” to make others happy? How can you prevent yourself from sacrificing your book to avoid conflict or avoid disappointing people? How can you really commit deeply to your book and stick with it?
Share your ideas, insights and commitments in a comment below. Or ask your questions, too.